Millions of people are now be looking back at the first half of 2010 wondering where it went. Does time fly because we’re successfully working hard or because we’re failing to use time wisely?
The problem of time perception has long fascinated psychologists. Actually, it’s fascinated you too—ever walked out of a movie and been shocked that two full hours went by? Ever noticed how strange it is that the trip out seems to take longer than the trip home? We sometimes feel empowered by the clock (“we’ve have plenty of time”) and sometimes controlled by the calendar (“time is running out”). Is time a matter of failure or success?
A writer for Psychology Today asks the same question about long-haul airplane flights:
And what of the journey from New York to Sydney? I’ve asked other passengers, and they seem to agree that time passes something like this: the first hour is agonizingly slow, the second hour passes more quickly, and the remaining hours of the first leg pass more and more quickly. The same applies when you embark on the second leg: the first few hours drag, but somewhere between the 13th and 21st hours of your journey, a black hole swallows time entirely. When you look back on the journey, you remember every minute of the first hour, but nothing of the six or seven hours in the middle. Then, excitement builds as you near your destination, and the hours correspondingly slow to a crawl.Not everyone experiences the journey the same way, of course, but no one experiences time as it truly passes, with each hour seeming just as long (or short) as every other hour.
It’s tempting to characterize this inaccuracy as failure. After all, shouldn’t we be good at perceiving time accurately, as passing exactly one second every second?
But on the other hand, this failure is also the key to our success. If we remembered every instant of our children’s lives, would baby’s first steps stand out in our minds? If each moment of highway driving was as conscious as those with heavy traffic, wouldn’t we drive ourselves crazy through boredom?
The year may be half over, but you’re not a failure if you don’t know where it went. Rather, you’re a success because you failed to obsess over the unimportant parts and instead focused only on the moments that matter.
Failure is the secret to success!